The Top Three Things You Should Not Do During The Divorce Process
Going through a divorce can be one of the most difficult times in a person’s life. There are many important decisions to be made, but the couple who needs to make them is often hurt and angry. That’s certainly not an ideal time to make major life decisions. That’s why the advice of a divorce lawyer knowledgeable in Arizona laws can be invaluable.
1. Probably the number one thing you should not do is to give in to your emotions.
Neither the divorce lawyer nor the judge is interested in the drama. It will only reflect badly on you if you don’t remain calm. If you find you cannot keep your emotions under control, seek counseling. Seeing a counselor can help you navigate the emotional roller coaster many people find themselves on during a divorce. The last thing you want is for the judge to see you as irrational.
Don’t let anger influence your decisions. Try to be flexible and negotiate what is best for everyone concerned. Just because you feel you were treated badly in the marriage doesn’t mean that you can expect a bigger settlement. On the other hand, don’t rush into a settlement just because you want it all to be over. Do your best to see to it that you and the children will receive fair financial support, including health insurance. If you aren’t sure if you are being treated fairly, ask the advice of your divorce attorney.
2. Don’t increase your debt, as you do not know what your final financial outcome will be.
You also don’t know how drawn out and expensive the divorce may become. You may also need the financial means to start over in a new home.
Don’t make unwise or vengeful financial moves, like attempt to hide assets or run up your spouse’s credit cards. These too, will reflect badly on you and give the judge a negative opinion of you.
3. Don’t behave in ways you will later regret.
Try not to do anything purely to spite your spouse. It often backfires.
Don’t do anything that can be interpreted as threatening your spouse. Don’t follow or harass them.
Don’t talk badly about your spouse to the children. Don’t put the children in the middle of problems. Don’t use the children as messengers or spies.
Don’t push them to choose sides.
Don’t prevent your spouse from seeing the children, unless there is a genuine safety issue. If that is the case, seek advice from your Chandler Arizona divorce attorney.
If you are the non-custodial parent, don’t miss or be late for your scheduled visit.
Divorce is difficult enough for children, don’t disrupt their relationship with the other parent any more than necessary. If the children are having a difficult time adjusting emotionally, consider counseling for them or for the entire family.
There is also something called divorce mediation, which is a process where the couple meets with an impartial third party to help them come to an agreement regarding hot button issues such as parenting, visitation, finances, and other sticky issues.
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